Not a type of abuse I copped much in my first marriage thankfully, so not something that bothers me much on a personal level (for me, it’s lies and hypocrisy that bother me) but yet, on a non-personal level, I find this type of emotional abuse to be one of the most disgusting because, just like the physical abuser who targets their blows to leave no visible injuries, the avoidant abuser uses silent treatment to hide the damage they are doing, to claim they are not abusers and aren’t “doing anything wrong”
The silent treatment (feigned apathy; cold-shoulder; silence; distance, and ignoring you) is the worst form of emotional abuse. It is a punishment used by abusers to make you feel unimportant, not valued, not cared about and completely absent from the abuser’s thoughts.
It is used as a form of non-physical punishment and control because the abuser mistakenly thinks that if they don’t physically harm you then they are not abusers. The truth is, they are far worse at doling out abuse than the physical abuser. Silent treatment is a form of banishing someone from the abuser’s existence without the benefit of closure or a good-bye or a chance at reconciliation. In a word … it’s meant to torture someone you profess to love.
No Second Chance
Should I meet someone again who uses this tactic just once he will not get another chance. Because the silent treatment…
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