Anyone who claims that people with autism lack empathy, have obviously never tried raising a teenager with ASD!
Today as the cricket world mourns the death of Phil Hughes, I have spent the afternoon trying to comfort a desperately distraught Sammie. Cricket is her passion/obsession and she worships cricket players who play for Australia.
And the hardest part is nothing I say or do brings any comfort to her. I know how upset she is because she actually asked for a hug – something she only does maybe a few times a year. And it scares me, because I don’t think she realises just how close my grandmother is to passing away in the next few months and I am scared because it may tip her over into a genuine depressive episode.
That’s one of the hardest parts of having aspergers – people with aspergers do feel emotions, and many feel them deeply, often more deeply than the average neurotypical person, but the difficulty expressing them in a way that others understand and knowing how to ask for help dealing with the emotions in a way that others will understand.
I know because even though the pain I have been though hasn’t been the death of a sports here, rather my pain was being an abuse survivor, but ultimately, pain is pain, and I know how hard it has been to get people to understand when I have been suffering deeply.
Which is why I want to help Sammie. Because I can see how much pain she is in. I just wish I knew more about what will make her feel better. I will keep trying everything I know and ask for professional advice, but it breaks my heart to see her so sad.